Motherhood is regarded as the purest manifestation of unconditional love! The notion of Motherhood undergoes constant updations everyday. But neither do the Moms of the Millennium wait for validations from society nor do they slow down their careers. Working moms and Home-bound moms are all finding their way to enjoy Motherhood to the fullest.
They say, there is nothing as contenting as holding the bundle of your joy close to your chest. You can literally spend all your life swooning into their wiggles and cuddling your charmer. Having said that, we cannot ignore the colossal change the toddler has brought to our lives! It goes without saying that the Motherhood calls for many hardships and sacrifices. It’s okay to pause for a moment to address the change and think about the ways to make your life more blissful after birthing a child.
Here are a few suggestions to help you out with the chaos and blocks which might weigh you down. Read through the tiny steps, consider following them - five or six at a time and observe the gradual change for yourself!
1.Balance your career with the Motherhood
It's totally your call to stay homebound with the baby or to get back to work once after the toddler gets comfortable in other hands. For the ambitious woman you are, here is a gentle reminder that no maternity leave is long enough to stop your career. You can get back to the designation you enjoyed all this while, as if nothing new happened. Of course, we need to be careful as anything while hiring or finding the “right” person back at home to take care of your baby. That’s when our blood bounds or a dedicated babysitter come to the rescue! Pause often to scroll through the live updates of the toddler they send you, even as you indulge in your job. That’s how it awesomely turns out to work together for you, mothers say!
2.Form Mother Squads.
Connect with other mothers who have their own figured-out ways to foster a child and their life together. Consider laughing your worries and chaos with them. Because who can relate better to sleepless nights, healing body and other hardships you must be going through. It might lighten things up a little bit. Moreover, you can get quick fixes to your problems as you converse to other moms as there are chances that they had gone through the same confusion.
3.Address the change and work on it.
You can roll back to the dynamics you were comfortable in, if you can organise the routine and then act strategically on the new routine. Analyse where your time spills for longer slots and work on the plans to shorten it. This will help us to avoid repetitive tasks, which can be cut short if organized well. Manage your time efficiently and make a timetable to prioritize tasks, You can thus make time for yourself without compromising the time dedicated for the baby.
4.Give undivided attention to your health, too.
Abide by your Doctor’s advice completely and do not compromise your medication and exercises for anyone or anything. Feeding mothers have to be super-healthy to nurture the baby with adequate amounts of essential nutrients, vitamins and proteins. Understand how these two processes function together and how important it is for the child, for you to be healthy too! Nothing can stop a sound body from achieving everything they wish to grab from life. Stay hydrated and healthy!
5. Sustain the family dynamics
Take advantage of every family member who loves to hold the baby and spend time with the child. This is when you can rebound with every single friends and relatives who visit you. Won’t it be unjustifiable if baby takes up all your time and nobody in your family gets to spend time with you? Act up before they end up hurt, longing for everything to roll back.
6. Go on a dinner/movie date with your partner
It is important to stay connected with your husband even as you enjoy the Motherhood. Try to revive the Romance and give your love life another exciting turn at this juncture. You want nobody to tell you about how to manifest your love for the partner, but a date can be the right gesture for your unparalleled love for him. We don't doubt the support and love from your partner’s side here, we are just trying to double the reciprocation factor!
7.Filter out the unhealthy and never ending advice-podcasts
Tired of misinformed and unwanted advice from your kiths and kins? However genuine their intentions are, sometimes this advice can be very overwhelming. They can push you into the constant tendency of doubting yourself about doing things right for the baby. Gently raise your concerns if they have no plans to stop nagging you for it’s totally cool to remind the advisor about the inappropriate boundaries. You can seek the help of doctors and dieticians for validations and helps though! At the same time, some of them are very sensible. When you resonate well enough, take in the encouraging anecdotes put forth by them!
8. Bask in your old and new hobbies
Consciously make time for art and hobbies in your life. The Music, Painting, Reading, Dance forms, Vlogs, Blogs, Journaling, Curating, and whatnot! - everything artsy deserves a try. Try a hand in everything you always wanted to do, during this period. Go to evening readings, book clubs and meet and greet events in the town! If that's not feasible, listen to audiobooks!
9. Revitalize your friendships
Who else can give you reality checks to keep you grounded! Friends are the only entities in our lives who are vested with the right to call out your stupid decisions and say it right on your face without hurting you. Catch up over a coffee and make time to go for gaily strolls and town strolls with your “mains” quite often. Reconnect with your old friends and make sure that not a tad bit of warmth has been lost. Also, make sure you say yes and make most of the day, if they offer to babysit for one day!
10. Reach out for help
It's very humane and normal to have confused opinions about making a decision. The identity crisis among new moms is very common and is nothing to be scared to feel disillusioned for a while. Be very assured that you are beautiful the way you are if you are worried about the changes that have happened to your body. You have fitness regimes and healthy diets to win that back, if you are valuing body image to great extents. Go easy on yourself when you feel stuck. But rather than waiting for it to pass, reach out to your friends, family or organizations.
Before we conclude, let us gently remind you, in case people around you forgot to tell you, that you sure are a superhero without a cape, for you pulled the pregnancy and childbirth off like a pro!! Enjoy Motherhood to the fullest! Check out this space for similar articles!